Balance

Balance

Balance

Originally posted March 6 2020

Balance is one of the hardest things for my students. I get comments all the time on how their balance was good last week, what happened to me this week? People get so frustrated with themselves. It doesn’t have to do with age, there are plenty of young people who struggle with their balance.

As a teacher, I shouldn’t assume my younger students are able to balance better than my older students. I mistakenly did that to my best friend. I taught her yoga  in the comfort of her home recently and I noticed I was wondering why her balance wasn’t as good. I felt bad and I honestly said, “I’m sorry I assumed your balance was at a certain level”. This was my fault. I quickly chose different poses so she felt confident in her skin.

I want my students to feel empowered wherever they are in life. That’s something I’m always striving to do with my students. I never want anyone to walk out feeling defeated or offended that I assumed they should be in a certain position. Everyone’s different and we can never, as teachers, believe that there is only one right or wrong way. 

Balance isn’t only a physical aspect we have trouble with. Dealing with the balance in our lives is another obstacle. Balancing family, work and play is a huge problem we have to conquer each day. Trying to decide when is the right time for you to sit with a good book or take a warm epsom salt bath as opposed to giving your time and energy to others.

Do you think about giving to yourself first?

Do you neglect yourself when something else comes up?

A friend calls and you answer right away knowing she or he needs you. You drop everything when your child forgets about a project due the next day. You give all your attention to your husband or wife after his  or her hard day, even when you had an equally hard day, 

Does any of this sound familiar?

Do you then keep this pattern of giving to others more than yourself? 

Boundaries can be established when you want your own self-care time. This is not selfish. Women, in particular, need this time to unplug, disengage, replenish, rejuvenate themselves. As women, we feel bad to take this time for ourselves. Even if you don’t have kids, you might feel like you should do laundry instead of taking a yoga class. This does not mean you neglect or ignore family or loved ones. You simply make a choice to bring attention to yourself when you need it the most. No one can run all day long and not have a chance to recharge their batteries. Think about that.

Do you tend to run on a low battery toward the end of the night?

Start to notice the reactions your body makes when you are run down, tired, exhausted.

How can you change your mindset on balance, self-care, self-love?

Perhaps come and immerse yourself in Italy with me in 2021. We will work on self-love, self-care and learn how to focus on yourself. Check out the retreats coming up.

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Love & Light,

Kate

Connections

Connections

Connections

,,edOriginally posted March 2 2020

I was always told as a young child that I was an old soul. I felt it too. I have connected well with older adults when I was younger. I loved their stories most of all. I am enthralled by stories. Recently, a student of mine was telling me about her time in Russia right after the Soviet Union fell. Oh, the stories she had. About spies, not knowing where the taxi would take her, the people she met in the war-torn country. I mean it felt like a book to be read. And she needed to be the writer of that book. 

My grandfather, Papa as he was called, had the most AMAZING stories of the war and his travels to Italy and then England where he met my Nana. There was something about his stories. I felt like I was there with him. I listened intently to every single detail. Laughed along with him when there was a punchline, I was always connected to him energetically when these stories came up. After a while, I remembered every single one, because he would repeat the same ones as he got older. I didn’t mind though because he was a great storyteller. I miss those stories to this day. 

I had a professor in college that lured me into his stories of philosophers, artists of many years ago. The way he taught was a sight. He would walk around the room like he was an actor on stage. Certain points he would lean on to the wall and lift his leg up to be dramatic. You had to be there. I don’t remember all his stories and lessons but I do remember how he made me feel. I was emotional connected to his storytelling. Once I found Dr. Poling, I made sure he was my professor for the rest of my years at Saint Mary’s University. Every semester, I got him as a teacher of something. Philosophy of art, Intro to Philosophy, any of his classes I signed up for. He even created a class just for me during my senior year in school. We studied Rene Descartes. To this day, I confide in him through email. Oh, the stories he still tells. It’s like I never left and our friendship still starts where we left off. The best feeling in the world to have a connection with someone who inspires you to be better, do better and always is on your side even when you can’t see or hear him. 

At this stage in my life, I crave connections. REAL connections with people. My tribe is out there somewhere I know. I have found some of you but I hope to connect with more people each and every year. 

I have no doubt that this post will be sent out to the universe to bring more people like me to me who will be my kindred spirits. I encourage anyone who would like to connect, comment below.

A quote that I like referring to your tribe is: 

 

“Set your life on fire. Seek those who fan your flames.”

-Rumi

Light and Love,
Katie 

Following the Wrong Path

Following the Wrong Path

Following the Wrong Path

Originally posted Feb 29 2020

There have been times in the past where I felt I was just going where the money was. What I mean is, I was following jobs that promised me money but it was clearly not what I was called to do. It was in front of me saying ‘hey I have a lot of money to pay you to do this job’.

Has anyone else felt this pull?

This pull to do a job, a task, an opportunity that entices you with money. But the task, job, opportunity itself does not resonate with you. 

I have struggled with this pull all my life. It is obvious when I look back at all the jobs I have had. From a well-paid call center job to an English teaching job where I had to drive so far to make money. I know this idea of pursuing jobs for money has been ingrained in me. As most ideas in our lives become conditioned into our brains from our families even from our ancestors.

Think about how your grandparents grew up and how their parents lived their lives. Those ideas on surviving through the hard times of the past, get passed down from generation to generation energetically, physically and behaviorally. 

Like the famous quote, ‘Show me the money’ from the movie Jerry Maguire, if you don’t enjoy the job that you are asking to ‘show you the money’, you will never be in alignment with your purpose. FYI, Your higher self is not and will NEVER be focused on the money.

We follow that path out of fear. Fear we won’t pay the bills. Fear we won’t be able to be happy with less. We are steered towards the easy way. Where can I work and just make money to feed myself and my family? The necessities of life will be fulfilled with this job. We don’t feel that if we step out of the comfort of a 9 to 5 job that we could survive. If we start our own business or taking the chance and moving to another country to experience the world, we believe we will inevitably fail. Because really, who does that? Society tells you that. The fear is evident whenever you go against the norm.

Nobody wants to feel that pain of failure or loss of failing at a business or coming back home after living abroad.  That feeling of going backward or losing money or flat out not being happy anymore, makes our mind go to that state of failure.

Think about it. Everyone who has started a business has failed. Everyone who has moved abroad eventually moves back home. It doesn’t mean that you aren’t moving forward. The fact that you even tried is something big in and of itself. The idea of failing is inevitably going to happen, but that is how you grow and evolve. 

Some myths that come up in my mind about taking the leap: 

It won’t work for me as it did for them, they were successful. 

I probably won’t do well.

I will lose money.

I won’t have any customers.

Someone is already doing it better, why should I try?

Who wants to work with me?

What happens when our thoughts start to take the negative exit of ‘I am not good enough’?

We start working at jobs where it doesn’t resonate with our beings. We take jobs that give us money only. No peace of mind, no joy, no encouragement to change. We stay in a place where it is comfortable. We don’t think about ourselves but think about providing for our family and lose sight of what is right for us because it is easier.

You tell this safe story: 

No one will judge me if I stay where I am. I won’t have to explain myself if I stay here. I don’t like confrontation so I won’t express my ideas in this meeting. 

We end up shortchanging ourselves just to stay safe and comfortable. 

What would it look like if we showed up in the arena? What if we showed up and told our story? What if we took a chance on ourselves? What if YOUR story is what someone needs to hear right now? What if what you are offering, for example, a yoga retreat, a therapy session or simply taking someone through meditation, is something that someone needs from you? Would you pursue that need? 

I am telling you that what you want to share with the world is needed. The world needs you! Don’t hold back in what truly makes your heart sing. I am telling you from experience.

For years, I have been following the norm of working the 9 to 5 and following the road that promised money at the end, not prosperity just money. Not happiness or joy, just money. There is a difference.

All those jobs and careers I followed because of the money turned out to be a burden. It turned me into an angry person. I noticed how I treated the people around me. I was irritable, annoyed, picked fights with my husband. I was not happy at all levels. 

Choose to be happy.

Choose to follow your path.

Choose to be yourself.

You have the power.

Because you are in the arena, taking the punches and jabs from life and you are daring to shine your light for all to see. Shine your light because when you do that, others will see it and want to shine just as bright as you. 

Our retreats are created with love and light, helping people find their purpose and stick to telling their story and shining their light for all to see. I hope you join us!

Love & Light,

Kate

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