Balance

Balance

Balance

Originally posted March 6 2020

Balance is one of the hardest things for my students. I get comments all the time on how their balance was good last week, what happened to me this week? People get so frustrated with themselves. It doesn’t have to do with age, there are plenty of young people who struggle with their balance.

As a teacher, I shouldn’t assume my younger students are able to balance better than my older students. I mistakenly did that to my best friend. I taught her yoga  in the comfort of her home recently and I noticed I was wondering why her balance wasn’t as good. I felt bad and I honestly said, “I’m sorry I assumed your balance was at a certain level”. This was my fault. I quickly chose different poses so she felt confident in her skin.

I want my students to feel empowered wherever they are in life. That’s something I’m always striving to do with my students. I never want anyone to walk out feeling defeated or offended that I assumed they should be in a certain position. Everyone’s different and we can never, as teachers, believe that there is only one right or wrong way. 

Balance isn’t only a physical aspect we have trouble with. Dealing with the balance in our lives is another obstacle. Balancing family, work and play is a huge problem we have to conquer each day. Trying to decide when is the right time for you to sit with a good book or take a warm epsom salt bath as opposed to giving your time and energy to others.

Do you think about giving to yourself first?

Do you neglect yourself when something else comes up?

A friend calls and you answer right away knowing she or he needs you. You drop everything when your child forgets about a project due the next day. You give all your attention to your husband or wife after his  or her hard day, even when you had an equally hard day, 

Does any of this sound familiar?

Do you then keep this pattern of giving to others more than yourself? 

Boundaries can be established when you want your own self-care time. This is not selfish. Women, in particular, need this time to unplug, disengage, replenish, rejuvenate themselves. As women, we feel bad to take this time for ourselves. Even if you don’t have kids, you might feel like you should do laundry instead of taking a yoga class. This does not mean you neglect or ignore family or loved ones. You simply make a choice to bring attention to yourself when you need it the most. No one can run all day long and not have a chance to recharge their batteries. Think about that.

Do you tend to run on a low battery toward the end of the night?

Start to notice the reactions your body makes when you are run down, tired, exhausted.

How can you change your mindset on balance, self-care, self-love?

Perhaps come and immerse yourself in Italy with me in 2021. We will work on self-love, self-care and learn how to focus on yourself. Check out the retreats coming up.

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Love & Light,

Kate

Following the Wrong Path

Following the Wrong Path

Following the Wrong Path

Originally posted Feb 29 2020

There have been times in the past where I felt I was just going where the money was. What I mean is, I was following jobs that promised me money but it was clearly not what I was called to do. It was in front of me saying ‘hey I have a lot of money to pay you to do this job’.

Has anyone else felt this pull?

This pull to do a job, a task, an opportunity that entices you with money. But the task, job, opportunity itself does not resonate with you. 

I have struggled with this pull all my life. It is obvious when I look back at all the jobs I have had. From a well-paid call center job to an English teaching job where I had to drive so far to make money. I know this idea of pursuing jobs for money has been ingrained in me. As most ideas in our lives become conditioned into our brains from our families even from our ancestors.

Think about how your grandparents grew up and how their parents lived their lives. Those ideas on surviving through the hard times of the past, get passed down from generation to generation energetically, physically and behaviorally. 

Like the famous quote, ‘Show me the money’ from the movie Jerry Maguire, if you don’t enjoy the job that you are asking to ‘show you the money’, you will never be in alignment with your purpose. FYI, Your higher self is not and will NEVER be focused on the money.

We follow that path out of fear. Fear we won’t pay the bills. Fear we won’t be able to be happy with less. We are steered towards the easy way. Where can I work and just make money to feed myself and my family? The necessities of life will be fulfilled with this job. We don’t feel that if we step out of the comfort of a 9 to 5 job that we could survive. If we start our own business or taking the chance and moving to another country to experience the world, we believe we will inevitably fail. Because really, who does that? Society tells you that. The fear is evident whenever you go against the norm.

Nobody wants to feel that pain of failure or loss of failing at a business or coming back home after living abroad.  That feeling of going backward or losing money or flat out not being happy anymore, makes our mind go to that state of failure.

Think about it. Everyone who has started a business has failed. Everyone who has moved abroad eventually moves back home. It doesn’t mean that you aren’t moving forward. The fact that you even tried is something big in and of itself. The idea of failing is inevitably going to happen, but that is how you grow and evolve. 

Some myths that come up in my mind about taking the leap: 

It won’t work for me as it did for them, they were successful. 

I probably won’t do well.

I will lose money.

I won’t have any customers.

Someone is already doing it better, why should I try?

Who wants to work with me?

What happens when our thoughts start to take the negative exit of ‘I am not good enough’?

We start working at jobs where it doesn’t resonate with our beings. We take jobs that give us money only. No peace of mind, no joy, no encouragement to change. We stay in a place where it is comfortable. We don’t think about ourselves but think about providing for our family and lose sight of what is right for us because it is easier.

You tell this safe story: 

No one will judge me if I stay where I am. I won’t have to explain myself if I stay here. I don’t like confrontation so I won’t express my ideas in this meeting. 

We end up shortchanging ourselves just to stay safe and comfortable. 

What would it look like if we showed up in the arena? What if we showed up and told our story? What if we took a chance on ourselves? What if YOUR story is what someone needs to hear right now? What if what you are offering, for example, a yoga retreat, a therapy session or simply taking someone through meditation, is something that someone needs from you? Would you pursue that need? 

I am telling you that what you want to share with the world is needed. The world needs you! Don’t hold back in what truly makes your heart sing. I am telling you from experience.

For years, I have been following the norm of working the 9 to 5 and following the road that promised money at the end, not prosperity just money. Not happiness or joy, just money. There is a difference.

All those jobs and careers I followed because of the money turned out to be a burden. It turned me into an angry person. I noticed how I treated the people around me. I was irritable, annoyed, picked fights with my husband. I was not happy at all levels. 

Choose to be happy.

Choose to follow your path.

Choose to be yourself.

You have the power.

Because you are in the arena, taking the punches and jabs from life and you are daring to shine your light for all to see. Shine your light because when you do that, others will see it and want to shine just as bright as you. 

Our retreats are created with love and light, helping people find their purpose and stick to telling their story and shining their light for all to see. I hope you join us!

Love & Light,

Kate

You Only Live Once

You Only Live Once

You Only Live Once

Originally posted Feb 28 2020

I am realizing that a loved one might not be here much longer. My grandma, Nana, has been a part of my life for my 38 years on earth. I am beyond lucky to have her still with me. She has been my rock through hard times. She has energetically sent bad vibes to people who have wronged me. Most importantly she is my link to my favorite place on earth, Italy.

Nana was born in a small town called Farneta in the region of Emilia Romagna. Born before World War II, she had a hard upbringing. Her idea of Italy is completely different than mine. She grew up in a world where war was in her backyard, famine, and uncertainty. She never experienced the Italy I know and love. I remember her first response when I told her I was going to study abroad in Florence in 2002. 

“Why would you want to go there?”

All I could respond with was “because I want to learn more about my heritage.”

She lit up when I said that.

Since then, my cousin has married an Italian from outside of Verona. My husband came into my life, a man born in my second home, Florence. I have lived in my beloved Firenze for 4.5 years as a legal resident.

Thanks to the path my Nana took from Farneta to London to America. My mother was born in a small town outside of London called Ledbury after my American grandfather swept my Nana off her feet. 

I experienced life outside of my hometown, outside of Nana’s Italy, outside of the norm. I took the leap of faith and let the net appear for me to live my already extraordinary life. 

You only live once, I always say to people. There is no reason to second guess your ideas, your path or even if you change your path for the better. Because we never know when our time is up. I do not want to be one of those people at the end of their life that says “I wish I started that Retreat business in Italy”.

Life is short and it is important to live it to the fullest.

Drink the wine, eat the cake, take that trip, explore that culture, spend the money.

Leap and the net will appear. It always does. I am a prime example of that saying. The net always appeared for me. 

I took the leap in 2005 when I quit my 9-5 job and spent the summer in Florence learning Italian. I took the leap in 2007 when I became a nanny for an Italian family. I took the leap and signed up for a travel writing workshop in Rome with my dear friend Amanda Castleman in 2008. I took the leap when I decided to apply for British citizenship and move my life to Florence in 2009. 

In Florence, I struggled, I worked paycheck to paycheck, I rode my bike everywhere, I knew all the secret side streets of Florence (to this day I can walk them in my head). I ran out of money. I couldn’t pay rent at a certain point. I was robbed. I was heartbroken. I got into bike accidents.

I fell. But I got up again. Every time. I brushed off the dirt from the cobblestones and pressed on. 

I do not regret one experience, one heartbreak, one job, one mean Italian who told me I didn’t speak right, one decision, one credit card purchase. Because they all led me to this point. The point in my life where I feel like a whole person. I lived where I wanted, ate what I wanted and always chose what was right for me. On my terms. 

People still ask me to this day, “why did you leave Italy?”

My boring answer is “the economy”. My actual answer is “I haven’t left yet.” 

A better answer now is, I needed to come home to fully develop my dream of “never leaving Italy”. 

That brings us to the present moment. I am incredibly excited to start this next chapter of my life. Living my dream of showing and teaching people about self-love and self-worth, about a country, and a city that is my real home in my heart. 

You only live once, remember that. Use all the hours, minutes, seconds in your day to live your best life. 

What would you start working on right now to live more fully?

Love & Light,

Kate

Makes Waves

Makes Waves

Makes Waves

Originally posted Feb 5, 2020

Make waves — It’s your turn to make a splash and rock a few creaky boats. Don’t be afraid to get wet. You may fail, you may look foolish, or you may make people think in a new way. Every great trailblazer and change-maker made waves. You’re no different.

A few weekends ago, I took a chance on a retreat nearby. I was reluctant to spend the money but I had too many signs to pass it up. I enjoyed every minute of it. We were limited time with our devices and we were focused on going inward. I noticed how much I am controlled by my devices. It was great to be away from it for most of the weekend. I learned to be with my thoughts more. I was aware of how I was thinking and talking to myself. I could choose again if a thought triggered me into fear or doubt.

I felt like I was seen. I didn’t know these people very well and it was important for me to speak my truth and be heard and seen. Even when I realized that I was talking too much, I felt the feeling of being “too much” and forgave myself for the thought of “no one cares about your husband and what he does for you”. 

During the weekend, I opened up and told someone about my retreat. I wasn’t ashamed about it, or talked it down. I said how excited I was. I didn’t force anyone to agree with me. I didn’t beg anyone to come. My ego (Inner Asshole) wrote those last two sentences. My IA talks me down a lot,  but I now realize when he is speaking and not my authentic self. 

Have you found yourself in the negative story spiral? I know I am usually there a few times a day. 

Try this: Choose Again Method

  1. Notice the negative fear based thought and how it feels.
  2. Forgive yourself for having the thought
  3. Choose again — reach for the next best feeling thought.

My mantra after the negative thought is:

I choose peace instead of this.

Make waves in your life. Don’t let others’ opinions or non-opinions steer you from your goal. Change the tides. Move mountains. Shine your light out to the world.

“The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.” -Anna Quinlen

Love & Light,

Katie 

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