Originally posted March 6 2020
Balance is one of the hardest things for my students. I get comments all the time on how their balance was good last week, what happened to me this week? People get so frustrated with themselves. It doesn’t have to do with age, there are plenty of young people who struggle with their balance.
As a teacher, I shouldn’t assume my younger students are able to balance better than my older students. I mistakenly did that to my best friend. I taught her yoga in the comfort of her home recently and I noticed I was wondering why her balance wasn’t as good. I felt bad and I honestly said, “I’m sorry I assumed your balance was at a certain level”. This was my fault. I quickly chose different poses so she felt confident in her skin.
I want my students to feel empowered wherever they are in life. That’s something I’m always striving to do with my students. I never want anyone to walk out feeling defeated or offended that I assumed they should be in a certain position. Everyone’s different and we can never, as teachers, believe that there is only one right or wrong way.
Balance isn’t only a physical aspect we have trouble with. Dealing with the balance in our lives is another obstacle. Balancing family, work and play is a huge problem we have to conquer each day. Trying to decide when is the right time for you to sit with a good book or take a warm epsom salt bath as opposed to giving your time and energy to others.
Do you think about giving to yourself first?
Do you neglect yourself when something else comes up?
A friend calls and you answer right away knowing she or he needs you. You drop everything when your child forgets about a project due the next day. You give all your attention to your husband or wife after his or her hard day, even when you had an equally hard day,
Does any of this sound familiar?
Do you then keep this pattern of giving to others more than yourself?
Boundaries can be established when you want your own self-care time. This is not selfish. Women, in particular, need this time to unplug, disengage, replenish, rejuvenate themselves. As women, we feel bad to take this time for ourselves. Even if you don’t have kids, you might feel like you should do laundry instead of taking a yoga class. This does not mean you neglect or ignore family or loved ones. You simply make a choice to bring attention to yourself when you need it the most. No one can run all day long and not have a chance to recharge their batteries. Think about that.
Do you tend to run on a low battery toward the end of the night?
Start to notice the reactions your body makes when you are run down, tired, exhausted.
How can you change your mindset on balance, self-care, self-love?
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